Gambling addiction (help)

[Vasuki]

am 20 currently
Earned 25l through crypto and other stuff
And i already lost 20l in gambling last year and some in 2022

In 2019 i made 1.5 lakh winning pubg tournament & by selling my I'd.
Initially when i made 7-8 & it was too much that time for me .. i somehow spend it ..
Earned more & spent .

Money come & go .
IF less is coming less gonna go
if u have more u gonna loose or spend more .

So Money lost isn't a problem .

Problem is how u lost it !
Gambling - untill & unless u accept money is gone & u won't try to regain it .. the Addiction can stop but won't be eliminated.

Studies - well well.. CA right ..
If u cleared 1st step ..
Study for 2nd but try working in that ..
Before u clear 2nd lvl & get stipend work


With porn addiction - well its normal at 20 to be high on sexual desires.

I won't suggest you any solution or Give you advice
but if u want answer u can do 2-3 things

1- Go for a walk without phone ( just walk ) walk in random streets which is semi quite & try talking to yourself ( firstly u will realise u aren't even saying things u know u did wrong 😁 but that's ok u will get better at talkin' with yourself) - this is single.most powerful thing


2- Bath daily early morning & wear fresh clothes ( you will feel good about yourself)

3- money chnage hands whos more worth at particular time ..money is Modern day Greatest seducer ( for which one do anything)

 

[akshayhs]

My parents or anyone doesn't know about this thing
They just think I am enjoying timepass and other stuff and not focusing on studies

You are still green. Forget whatever happened and start to actually live your life.

 

[Pankhuri]

I am 20 currently
Earned 25l through crypto and other stuff
And i already lost 20l in gambling last year and some in 2022
Because of that i didn't Focused on my studies and failed in ca and cs exams .
My 2 years are waste
Today idk now I again gambled and lost 2l again.
Now I am left with 3 and mind f*cked
Please guide me what to do
I did Cricket and online casino

Please don't say how you earned this much and all

I am really very stressed and I can't handle it

@S S V @DocFixIt

Bhai mummy ke naam ki fd karwa, jisko close karwane ke liye mummy ko saath leke jaana pade.

 

[iampqq]

In 2019 i made 1.5 lakh winning pubg tournament & by selling my I'd.
Initially when i made 7-8 & it was too much that time for me .. i somehow spend it ..
Earned more & spent .

Money come & go .
IF less is coming less gonna go
if u have more u gonna loose or spend more .

So Money lost isn't a problem .

Problem is how u lost it !
Gambling - untill & unless u accept money is gone & u won't try to regain it .. the Addiction can stop but won't be eliminated.

Studies - well well.. CA right ..
If u cleared 1st step ..
Study for 2nd but try working in that ..
Before u clear 2nd lvl & get stipend work


With porn addiction - well its normal at 20 to be high on sexual desires.

I won't suggest you any solution or Give you advice
but if u want answer u can do 2-3 things

1- Go for a walk without phone ( just walk ) walk in random streets which is semi quite & try talking to yourself ( firstly u will realise u aren't even saying things u know u did wrong 😁 but that's ok u will get better at talkin' with yourself) - this is single.most powerful thing


2- Bath daily early morning & wear fresh clothes ( you will feel good about yourself)

3- money chnage hands whos more worth at particular time ..money is Modern day Greatest seducer ( for which one do anything)

I didn't even able to clear 1st step foundation from 3 attempts
Because I didn't able to study
Maan hi nhi lagta tha

 

[SSV]

I have a gym membership from past 2 year
Just gone for 5-6 days

I am actually having a slight headache now..
Even then I will spend sometime here as it seems you are very anxious about things happening in your life.. we will talk in detail in the coming days.
1) I have been to gym for almost 20 years..
You need to go to gym especially now..
It increases serotonin levels in the brain which helps in regulating mood..
Do search about serotonin...

Things you need to do now immediately..

1) deactivate/ delete all your online accounts in which you are doing gambling.. Uninstall all the apps which are not required by you.
Probably use your mobile under parental control .. this really helps
2) minimise your online activities and online presence drastically..
3) Live the real life with real people... this really helps .. this online life at the very young age is killing people mentally ..
4) There is a beautiful life outside in the real world waiting for you... Do every single activity physicallybputsode on the real world.. spend more time with friends, family pets, gym, listening to .music, meeting g new people. Put a timetable.. wakes up early, gym, study your CA course with friends, evening g go out and participate in fun activities like playing games or whatever interests you. Go to temples / friends or family places like grandparent's or whoever you like..
All this is to appreciate your life living on this earth and spend time people you really love..

More later

 

[Vasuki]

I didn't even able to clear 1st step foundation from 3 attempts
Because I didn't able to study
Maan hi nhi lagta tha

As i said .
You should go out on your terrace or street if u can or walk in room & talk to yourself..
You will have all the answers ( just do it )

 

[Cc_creditguy]

My parents or anyone doesn't know about this thing
They just think I am enjoying timepass and other stuff and not focusing on studies

Bro my suggestions is avoid trading, even in any platform and go to gym try to look at you in a mirror example if you can't bench 20kg think your are noob , look at the big guyz in the gym some may help , play with them , then you get some decent phyisc or strength I'm sure diet is the toughest one first try to lift as you can play with big guyz then you likely to go to gym it's my view I'm may be wrong any way all the best

 

[SmartyAadi]

I am 20 currently
Earned 25l through crypto and other stuff
And i already lost 20l in gambling last year and some in 2022
Because of that i didn't Focused on my studies and failed in ca and cs exams .
My 2 years are waste
Today idk now I again gambled and lost 2l again.
Now I am left with 3 and mind f*cked
Please guide me what to do
I did Cricket and online casino

Please don't say how you earned this much and all

I am really very stressed and I can't handle it

@S S V @DocFixIt

So sorry to hear this buddy. It's alright. You'll be fine. We all have made mistakes at some point of our lives. Accept the reality and move on. TBH proud of you for even accepting that you were / are addicted to gambling, a lot many can't even do that. Don't be stressed. It is alright, it really is.
Gonna share that I have failed in one subject for my engineering 2 years ago but I accepted what happened and tried to make it right and re appeared for it and got a 94% score on it (Got addicted to watching youtube and netflix as got access to those that time and I just couldn't stop myself)

First of all, uninstall any gambling apps from the phone.
2nd - Please occupy yourself with some or the other work. Like exercise, studying. The more free time you have the more chances of getting urges to gamble

3rd - if get the urge to gamble then just think about the money you might lose. Is 2L better than 0?
Also, I'll suggest doing some FD or something with that money so that even if you have the urge, you will have less chances of doing stuff to get money and gamble it away.

Just my take. Not sure if I this is helpful or not but yeah. Anyways bud! Don't beat yourself for it and just try to stay calm. If you want, can try going to a therapist too.

 

[Vasuki]

Bro my suggestions is avoid trading, even in any platform and go to gym try to look at you in a mirror example if you can't bench 20kg think your are noob , look at the big guyz in the gym some may help , play with them , then you get some decent phyisc or strength I'm sure diet is the toughest one first try to lift as you can play with big guyz then you likely to go to gym it's my view I'm may be wrong any way all the best

Idk why everyone recommended gym ..
I simply don't like closed door physical activity.. unless weight training/ girls are nice

 

[COSMOCRAT]

Cookie effect or if that's what it's called.
You got high on making big in crypto and thought other ventures would be the same and straightforward. Then failing once made you think next time will be the charm and it kept repeating.

I would say forget you left with 3L (rather spend it all but on something for yourself, if home finances are not dependent on you) and go on a solo trip or trek with only a dumbphone and enjoy. Avoid small dopamines like eating, watching corn, and sleeping for now as you are just looking for ways to escape reality, and this will turn into a procrastination habit.
There is no point in worrying about time and money already lost.
Forget it all and start over again, You are just 20 and have a long life ahead of you.

 

[iampqq]

At a point like 2 year back i was having this amt and now my online community friends have like 2-3cr and offline classes friends passed ca inter and i did nothing
So this make me more stressed.

 

[Vasuki]

At a point like 2 year back i was having this amt and now my online community friends have like 2-3cr and offline classes friends passed ca inter and i did nothing
So this make me more stressed.

Just put your phone down & have a walk ..& talk to yourself..
You will see how brave you are to accept your flaws

Its all within you

I can't force more than this 🙃

 

[amitr29]

I am 20 currently
Earned 25l through crypto and other stuff
And i already lost 20l in gambling last year and some in 2022
Because of that i didn't Focused on my studies and failed in ca and cs exams .
My 2 years are waste
Today idk now I again gambled and lost 2l again.
Now I am left with 3 and mind f*cked
Please guide me what to do
I did Cricket and online casino

Please don't say how you earned this much and all

I am really very stressed and I can't handle it

@S S V @DocFixIt

Wrong forum to ask but still I will suggest that go and tell this to your parents. Discuss with them openly. They will guide you and help you control your addiction

 

[Pankhuri]

How my mind is damaged you can't imagine
I am watching p**n most of days
Eating and sleeping
My routine from past 5 months
My parents are tensed abt my future as I keep failing in exam

Make a routine, be a robot, don't give yourself time for porn shit. For the first few weeks/month, don't spend much time alone with your gadgets. If you are studying or watching some video, do it in living room instead of your private space. It will have the dual benefit of your parents worrying less about you since you would be spending time with them and also helps with the other shit.

Make it a habit of sleeping without electronics around you, keep phone/laptop in parents' room.

Make sure to go on a morning walk and a nigth walk for 10 mins, without phone. If you feel you are too lazy to do it, starting feeding stray dogs near you, is a good serotonin release. Plus once you take responsibility for these, you will find a way to find 10 mins for them in morning and evening.

Studies do it lightly, 2 years is nothing in the long run, I know people who completed 4 yr degree in 7 yrs and still turned out gr8, so don't worry. Try to focus on your next semester exams, when those are done, think about taking care of supli in other courses.

Also be happy, you learned a valuable lesson at a young age and it didn't cost you much, I understand you earned 25L by investing in crypto, but you didn't lose any money from your house till now. So be very honest with yourself, if you earned it because you understood the trade, then you happen to have a skill and could easily get a job where you can apply those skills. Plus you are young and in college, so can learn this and hone your skills in trading.

 

[iampqq]

Wrong forum to ask but still I will suggest that go and tell this to your parents. Discuss with them openly. They will guide you and help you control your addiction

Bro unko bataya tho they will blame me more that I was busy doing shit rather that studing and will never trust me

 

[Vasuki]

Make a routine, be a robot, don't give yourself time for porn shit. For the first few weeks/month, don't spend much time alone with your gadgets. If you are studying or watching some video, do it in living room instead of your private space. It will have the dual benefit of your parents worrying less about you since you would be spending time with them and also helps with the other shit.

Make it a habit of sleeping without electronics around you, keep phone/laptop in parents' room.

Easy to suggest .
Hard to implement.

 

[iampqq]

Easy to suggest .
Hard to implement.

I tried that kind of thing but didn't able to continue

 

[Pankhuri]

Easy to suggest .
Hard to implement.

Ab buri aadat apne aap se chut jaaye toh buri aadat hee kyun ho. Utni mehnat toh karni hee padti hai. Especially imo cutting off from your friend and family is probably one of the reasons people turn to excessive consumption of porn. So, making that connection back do help.

 

[Pankhuri]

I tried that kind of thing but didn't able to continue

If you tried and weren't able to continue, then the answer is simple, keep it light. If you couldn't do it one day, fine, streak broke but that's about it. Start a new one from next day. You are able to continue your bad habits, suggest that you are capable of being consistent. Just utilize that for something different.

 

[tushu5121]

Talk with your parents.. go To a psychiatrist..

It might feeling you Strange and bad option.
But Trust me no better option than this.
IN my 20s i used bet on cricket and was kucky also.
But somehow my mother got info about this and She just said one thing.
You get addicted it will take everything from you.
If you want something just tell me i will fulfill your needs just stop gambling And find Other goos ways to earn.
Now i am 29 and Earning good income but not from gambling and happy that i lef this habit after doing promise to my mother..

I still saw my frnds doing gambling but they are not happy at all they are in Fear and Greed everytime..

Follow what is say trust me your addiction will be left soon